Respond on Sunday and Monday.
💐 Thank You, Sisters!
A heartfelt thank you to each of you who participated over the past three days in our Loved to Love reflection journey through
Ephesians 1.
Before reading the responses of others, kindly post your responses. Remember, there is no right or wrong answers - it's your transformation.
Whether you’re Phlegmatic, Melancholic, Sanguine, or Choleric—your willingness to pause, reflect, and grow is a beautiful act of obedience and love. 💖
Now that we've completed our reflection questions for the week, it's time to share!
✍️ Please post your three responses
in the comments.
on this page and interact with someone else’s post from your team. If time permits, feel free to visit the other teams’ pages and respond to their answers too.
Please do not wait until Monday to do all your interacting.
Let’s truly practice what Jesus commanded in Mark 12:31: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself.”
Kind, simple responses like I posted in the chat will be fine
—or any heartfelt response you’re led to give—are more powerful than you think.
🙌🏽 Also, if someone comments on your post, take a moment to go back and say thank you. Let’s be intentional in building one another up in love.
⏰ Please try to post your three responses before midnight tonight so everyone has time to read and engage over the weekend.
We are growing together, step by step—becoming women who love well, because we are deeply loved by God.
Let’s finish this week strong, and stay connected in love. 💖
You are, and always will be…
Loved to Love. 🌿🕊️
REMEMBER: Responses only today - No comments as yet. Thanks.
Good morning to everyone
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Wednesday July 23rd
🌺Day 1
Responding to others.
How do I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious?
Well the truth and the fact is I don’t handle them at all , because am a person that likes deep connection if I realize that you’re not like that I tend to withdraw myself , and in my lifetime I have encountered a few persons that are not emotionally involved , to me they lacked depth or sense of purpose , cause they were not able to bring anything to the table
So yes I did pull away .
Now: Am I learning to connect without needing depth all the time?
Yes I am because I realize that we are all wired differently and I myself may have had some flaws that they too were not happy with ..
Ephesians 1:5 – "God decided in advance to adopt us... and it gave Him great pleasure."
🌺Day 2
Receiving and extending grace .
How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations?
Did I get critical or distant?
Complete turn off , I would start talking to you , when I realize we are not on the same wave length I start making excuses , sometimes even paint a bad picture of myself to turn you against me , that way I don’t feel guilty ..
Am I learning to offer grace as God works in them? Yes
Now .. I lean in praying and hoping that with time things would change..
Ephesians 1:7 – "He purchased our freedom... and forgave our sins."
Day 3
🌺Seeing Ourselves Clearly
How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
I’ve always been one to compare myself , I remember growing up as a child even in my teenage years I was nothing like that , I always thought I was it , because I took pride in myself and the things I did , as I grew into adult hood I find that I became critical of myself , because they was always a particular person questioning where am at in life the things I did and how come i wasn’t measuring up to my siblings , so that feeling of self worth , feeling less than , always trying to measure up creeped up slowly on me , and I must say it’s not a nice feeling ..
Now . Am I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself?
Absolutely as a growing Christian and in reading the word , especially when I get to passages that speaks about me being fearfully and wonderfully made , and I was already in Gods plan , even this same passage that we are now reading , how he choose me even before the creation of the world , ahhhhh , that’s enough reason for me to sing and shout and not try to measure up to anyone ..
Ephesians 1:13 – "He identified you as His own by giving you the Holy Spirit."
Bless day all🌺
Good morning Sis Alanda.
DeleteThank you for sharing from your heart.
Have a blessed day
Sister Alanda, thank you for being so open and transparent, God is truly transforming you. Continue to allow Him to in you and through you.
DeleteAm I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself?
DeleteSister Alanda, I love this statement, this is wonderful, it shows that you are learning to accept who you are, may God continue to bless you as you turn a new chapter exploring who you are,,💗
Alanda , thank you all
DeleteBeautifully said Sister Alanda!
DeleteDeborah
DeleteGm sis Alanda
Thanks for sharing
This bless me
Sister Alanda, I smiled at.. AHHHHH. I know how you feel... We are so Loved by our Father.. Thanks for sharing
DeleteWonderful transformational journey! Thanks for sharing Sis Alanda. You're absolutely right - as we see our own flaws, we're able to give others grace. Continue allowing the Holy Spirit to transform you into the woman God created you to be!
DeleteThanks for sharing Sis Alanda, and reaching that point where you can offer grace to others.
DeleteHello WS.
ReplyDeleteWednesday Soul-Searching Questions:
1️⃣ Before and Now: How do I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious?
Before: Did I quietly criticize them or pull away, feeling misunderstood?
Yes, I did criticize and keep them at a distance and say" I can't be bothered "
Now: Am I learning to value lightheartedness as a gift and connect without needing depth all the time?
With the knowledge and understanding I have now, keeping in mind that we are all different, I am learning to be cheerful, free not being to serious just be loose.
Ephesians 1:5 – "God decided in advance to adopt us... and it gave Him great pleasure."
Thursday Soul-Searching Questions:
2️⃣ Before and Now: How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations?
Before: Did I become critical, disappointed, or distant?
Yes, I were very critical of people who don't meet my expectations- I like people to follow through so I will just not bother with them and do things myself.
Now: Am I learning to offer grace, trusting that God is still working in them as He is in me?
I am learning to offer grace because I will like them to offer grace to me because God is still working on me as in He is on them. Give others time
Ephesians 1:7 – "He purchased our freedom with the blood of His Son and forgave our sins."
Friday Soul-Searching Questions:
3️⃣ Before and Now: How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
Before: Did I feel less than, or over-focus on flaws and imperfections?
Yes, I felt less than. I often will feel like I a not good enough. I will spend a lot of time focusing on what I did wrong .
Now: Am I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself?
Ephesians 1:13 – "He identified you as His own by giving you the Holy Spirit."
That's right I am learning to rest In my God- given identity. I am a bit more confident , not looking at others or trying to compare myself with others but just be me and who God has created me to be. God has created everyone differently.
Have a bless day everyone.
Alanda
DeleteThank you for sharing sister Theresa, I can relate
Deleteam a bit more confident , not looking at others or trying to compare myself with others but just be me and who God has created me to be. It is wonderful that you have come to that conclusion because indeed there isn't another Theresa, you are uniquely and wonderfully created, continue to delight in who God has created you to be💗
DeleteThank you Sisters Alanda and Tessie
DeleteI can relate Sister Theresa!!
DeleteDeborah
DeleteThank you T T for sharing
This bless me
Thanks for sharing sister Theresa. Keep on growing. It's showing.
DeleteAmen! Continue to be you and see the value in who/how God created you! It's always a good reminder that we don't need to compare ourselves with anyone else - God made us all unique! Thanks for sharing your transformation!
DeleteThanks for sharing Sis Theresa.
Delete🔵 Melancholic
ReplyDelete1️⃣ How do I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious?
Before: Did I quietly criticize or pull away?
Now: Am I learning to connect without needing depth all the time?
Yes I am learning to connect without needing depth all the time, although surface conversations tend to drain me alot I am trying to say hello and to speak up and to say quick jokes with others.I will confess I do try to bring in the depth at times in my surface conversations- it sometimes keeps things balanced, I don't have to keep thinking of what to say to continue this conversation and the other person doesn't have to feel intimidated by my questions or reactions or lack of
📖 Ephesians 1:5 – "God decided in advance to adopt us... and it gave Him great pleasure."
🔵 Melancholic
2️⃣ How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations?
Before: Did I get critical or distant?
Now: Am I learning to offer grace as God works in them?
Yes I am learning to offer Grace- I recently felt myself becoming critical of someone and how they presented something and I did not realize how much it affected my body language in the event.The Holy spirit suddenly brought to my mind the tendency to be critical of others and I immediately softened my stance and redirected my thoughts. I started to focus less on how the presentation was done but rather than the information presented. I can say that I saw such a big difference in how I interacted with the material and how the atmosphere in the room changed once I realized that I needed to offer Grace to others.I thank God for his Holy Spirit because it is my default to sit and analyze and criticize ---work in progress
📖 Ephesians 1:7 – "He purchased our freedom... and forgave our sins."
🔵 Melancholic
3️⃣ How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
Before: Did I over-focus on flaws or feel less than?
Now: Am I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself?
I sat with this one because I can say that I am still struggling -I will say starting this Transformation Process the first thing it did for me was give me the opportunity to release the need to be perfect or feel like something was wrong with me and that is the biggest Aha for me.To finally feel that I am OK, that I am enough as I am was a great starting point. I say all this to say I still focus on my flaws and I still struggle with my identity. Reading Ephesians 1 this week has enlightened me to the wonderful news that I was chosen, that I was thought of even before time and that somehow God had me in mind when he established his Great plan.I do get reminders when I tend to slip into these tendencies but it is a continual battle. God is encouraging me as I write this that if us Mel sisters can identify and understand our worth- wheee how powerful we can be in the Kingdom.
📖 Ephesians 1:13 – "He identified you as His own by giving you the Holy Spirit."
Amen Sister Jesmyn your response to the 3rd question really spoke to me ..
DeleteGood morning Sis Jazzy
DeleteI say Amen to this . " If us Mel sisters can identify and understand our worth , how powerful we can be in the Kingdom" well said.
Have a wonderful day
To finally feel that I am OK, that I am enough as I am was a great starting point. Beautiful put sister Jesmyn, you are Ok. You are well put together because God thought of you way back before you came into existence, it is truly amazing that your eyes were open to that, continue being special as you are,💗
DeleteSister Jesmyn, this here - "I will say starting this Transformation Process the first thing it did for me was give me the opportunity to release the need to be perfect or feel like something was wrong with me and that is the biggest Aha for me." This really spoke to me. Thanks for sharing!
DeleteDeborah
DeleteGm sis Jesmyn
Thanks for sharing
I can relate.
LOL - I thought it was only me!! I'm always thinking 'oh man, what do I say next??' in conversations! Thanks for sharing your transformation journey. I like the point you made about intentionally 'softening our stance and redirecting our thoughts' when a critical thought comes. Continue to listen to the leading of the Holy Spirit as He transforms you daily.
DeleteAmazing testimony, thanks for sharing.
DeleteGood morning Ladies,
ReplyDeleteCholeric/Melancholic
1️⃣ How do I handle people who seem indecisive or too slow?
As I look back I had no tolerance, my attitude was get it done or get out of my way so I can deal with things. Over the years, I have allowed myself time to be slow, taking time instead of rushing others and myself. Encouraging others to not give up but get it done, it may not be the way I would like but ensure you achieve the task and at least try. It took me a little time to understand that we all just function differently. Choleric' have high tendency to control a situation or to speak out boldly but each Choleric are uniquely different; we still manage to operate differently and get things done. Respectfully so for all the other temperaments, uniquely different. Seeing our uniqueness is one of my reasons for having more tolerance in certain situations. It is true that Choleric can be very decisive when making decisions but as I observed other temperaments it has helped in my temperament learnt adjustments, that is, not to be so quick to make decisions,allow time, think a little bit longer about the issue. And again it's a work in progress.
2️⃣ How do I speak when I see things going wrong?
To be honest this question is loaded for me.
Loaded because I think it is hitting a personal note. I can be more tolerant outside of my home because I am not seeing this happen all the time ; but at home I have younger individuals. Boy Ohh....oh I have to repeat the same thing over and over. It is a challenge because the individuals would be wrong but still try to explain the wrong instead of acknowledging I am in error and move on. Now this is my problem, How do I deal with a situation like this as a Choleric, it's really hitting me hard!!! How do I speak? Ephesians have my back, I am hoping to understand better people 😜
3️⃣How do I view those who don’t take initiative?
Before I just couldn't understand why someone would have opportunities and just allow it to past them. Truthfully, I still am hitting this topic with hard love because it's important. Especially with individuals that have acquired knowledge and know what needs to be done. Do not get me wrong I do understand that God work in everyone differently and at His own time. Interestingly I believe that despite what temperament we do have the goal is to understand and grasp that understanding and utilize it. Sadly over the years I have heard many believers used this statement very passively, "Oh well it's my personality type" . It is true that it is our personality type but all of our personality types have room to grow and evolve into what God says we should be. We all should be actively working to better the Kingdom through our temperaments. I cannot say it is because of laziness but whatever the reasons, taking initiatives is an important role as a Christian.
Taking initiatives show you how far you can go and how wide you can spread your wings, we cannot sour if we do not take initiatives, we must exercise those wings. Ephesians 1:18 NIV
[18] I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people,
Love you all ❤️ ❤️.
Grace and Peace WS
DeleteLoved To Love :Melancholic
Day 1: Responding to Others.
The way I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious,
is to just Let people be,live and let live .
it's really not my place to determine peoples level of dept.
Before: I quietly criticized or pull away sometimes
unintentionally but most of the time
I give people the space that I sense they need .
Which may look like pulling away .
I honestly did not realise how much I was doing that until in recent times .
Now: Am I learning to connect without needing depth all the time.
I understand that we are all different ,have different communication styles and experiences . People may have trust issues or past hurts ,different personality and need time to feel safe in-order to connect.So I need to be respectful, kind and patient .I am intentional and empathic to others
Day 2: Receiving and Extending Grace
How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations? In life I have learned to leave room for disappointment .
We are not perfected yet . We are at different stages in our transformation journey ,different maturity levels ,and season of life
Before: Did I get critical or distant?Yes I realise Distancing is a natural occurrence for me in the vain of protecting my peace but -(I say am giving you space )I am stepping back .
Now: Am I learning to stay engaged ,(somewhat ,
work in progress)offer grace as God works in them and me . Accept people for who they are .We are not all at the same stage in life or have/had the same experiences . Pray and Thank God for the redeeming blood of Jesus We are chosen ,we are forgiven, adopted and he lavished with his grace , therefore we can extend it to others
Day 3: Seeing Ourselves Clearly
Today's question gave me a long pause . The reminder of this truth "You are chosen, sealed, and deeply loved"hit a spot
How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
Accept my own uniqueness .
Before: yes
I over-focus on flaws or and at times felt less than .
I have struggled with this all of my life, and realised that in certain spaces
made this lie feels even more real .But with the work of the Holy Spirit ,prayer ,affirmation of Word Now: Am I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself. God's grace is sufficient for me, for His power is made perfect in weakness.2corth 12:9 He /God knew exactly who he was getting when he choose you and me and adopted us as his own .so we lean in and
love him and patiently love others.
Thank for this exercise this week of tasting of the Word
Have a blessed Day Ladies ,
Loved to Love 💚
Sister Tessie thank you for sharing from the heart.
DeleteThis blessed me sister Alynthia , thanks for sharing
DeleteGrace and Peace Sis Alynthia.
Delete" God knew exactly who He was getting when he chose you and me and adopted us as his own" Thanks for sharing from your heart
Have a blessed day
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DeleteThanks for being so transparent Sis Tessie
DeleteI understand that we are all different ,have different communication styles and experiences . Thia, understanding how different we are is such a big deal, I love how this has become so clear to you. Continue to remember those differences as you continue to grow, continue to embrace how different you are as the journey continues💞
DeleteGm sis Tessie
DeleteThanks for sharing
Your post is a gift.
Deborah
DeleteGm sis Alynthia
Thanks for sharing
Accepting my own uniqueness
This line is staying with me.
Sis Alynthia: I really like the point you made about "leaving room for disappointment". That is a good bit of advice. I must commend you on your ability to accept, empathize and provide grace to others. Continue tasting and seeing that the Lord is good!
DeleteSis Tessie: It is lovely to see how much you're growing as an individual and mom. As I read your reflection, I can see that the Holy Spirits transformation in your life is improving all aspects of your life. Continue to avail yourself and listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit.
DeleteWell said my sis. I really believe in leaving room for disappointment. Thanks for sharing.
DeleteI like that part taking initiatives, show you how far you can go and how wide you can spread your wings. thanks for sharing.
DeleteGreetings everyone,
ReplyDelete🔵 Melancholic
Day One
Wednesday Soul Searching Question:
Before and Now: How do I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious?
Before:I judged by saying they are not making time for God, that they are not interested.
Now: I understand that we all may not be at the same level in Christ all at once, but God loves us, no matter what level we are at in our relationship with Him.
Day two
Thursday Soul Searching Question
Before and now: How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations?
Before:
I would pull away from them, and shut them out.
Now:
I am asking God to soften my heart towards others and help me to see and love them as He sees and loves me.
Day Three
How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
Before:
I did not think of myself as being able to measure up to others, I did not think that I had the capability. I thought of myself as being too boring.
Now: I see that through Jesus Christ God has made me uniquely me with all my weaknesses, shortcomings and strengths. I now know that I am what I am by God’s grace. I am learning and growing in my acceptance of myself.
Blessings 🙏🏾
Sister Michelle this blessed my heart
DeleteSis Michelle, this encouraged me today. Thank you
DeleteI now know that I am what I am by God’s grace. I am learning and growing in my acceptance of myself. Sister Michelle, continue accepting how beautiful you are both on the inside and the outside. Self-acceptance is so important in order to make meaningful changes, continue discovering and changing where necessary,,💗
DeleteDeborah
DeleteThank you sis michelle for sharing
Am praying this over my life too.
Amen! It's great to read about how this transformation journey is helping you Sis Michelle. You're right - our strengths, weaknesses and shortcomings all contribute to our uniqueness!
DeleteThank you for sharing Sis Michelle. I fully agree with you, God has made me uniquely me with all my weaknesses, shortcomings and strengths.
DeleteGoodnight ladies,
ReplyDelete1️⃣ How do I handle people who don’t seem emotionally deep or serious?
Before: Did I quietly criticize or pull away?
Now: Am I learning to connect without needing depth all the time?
Before our temperament journey, I did not understand why I felt uncomfortable talking with people who didn't have emotional depth or those who liked 'small talk'. I did not realize that I had a preference for conversational depth and felt like something was wrong with me because surface level talking felt uncomfortable. Now I am learning that it's ok to connect without needing depth all the time. With this knowledge, I will work on not pulling away or feel like something is wrong if conversations are just 'light'.
2️⃣ How do I respond to people who don’t meet my expectations?
Before: Did I get critical or distant?
Now: Am I learning to offer grace as God works in them?
This is still a work in progress for me but I'm seeing growth. When people don't meet my expectations, I can be critical - not directly, but usually in my head. I use to think that was fine because I didn't 'verbalize' my criticism, but I'm learning that criticizing in my head is just as bad because my body language/attitude tends to reflect that I am not pleased. I am now learning that when those critical thoughts come, I should just give the person grace - just as how God gives me grace when I fall short of His expectations.
3️⃣ How do I view my worth in comparison to others?
Before: Did I over-focus on flaws or feel less than?
Now: Am I learning to rest in my God-given identity and stop striving to prove myself?
As I mature, I am definitely resting in my God-given identity but there are still times when I strive to prove myself. Now that I know about the melancholic tendency to focus on my flaws, I try to 'hold captive' thoughts of inadequacy. With the help of the Holy Spirit, I am starting to give myself grace and starting to see myself as God sees me, as His fearfully and wonderfully made child whom He loves dearly! My worth is not in comparison to those around me, rather, my worth in Christ alone!
Sister Trudy thank you for sharing , that last line is staying with me ..
DeleteThank you Sis Trudy for sharing so gentle and powerful
DeleteI am starting to give myself grace and starting to see myself as God sees me,
DeleteSuch a strong statement. It is truly wonderful that you are also realizing that in the midst of giving grace you also need some personal grace to be strengthened and victorious on your Journey. Continue to take it easy with yourself, God has given unto you everything to reach the top.in your unique way,💗
Thank you Sis Alanda, Sis Theresa and Sis Tessie!
DeleteMay God continue to bless your temperaments as you turn new chapters. Blessings ❤️
ReplyDeleteDeborah
ReplyDeleteGm sis Trudy Thanks for shsring
Such gentle truth.
Thank you Sis Deborah!
DeleteSo true! We all should be giving ourselves grace. Thank you for sharing.
DeleteGood day, Team 3!
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your thoughtful participation in our Loved to Love: Ephesians 1 Reflection. 💖
Below are a few brief comments on each of your responses—just a little encouragement as we continue growing together.
🌺 Sister Alanda:
Thank you for sharing so honestly, Sister Alanda. Your growth is evident in every response—especially how you’re learning to give grace and accept your God-given identity. That “ahhhh” moment made me smile too—yes, we are chosen and deeply loved! Keep resting in that truth. 💖
🌸 Sister Theresa:
Sister Theresa, I loved your openness! Your honesty about being critical and learning to extend grace is so relatable. It’s beautiful to see how you’re leaning into confidence in your identity in Christ. Keep walking in that freedom and joy. 🌷
🔵 Sister Jesmyn:
Sister Jesmyn, what a powerful and thoughtful reflection. I appreciate how you broke it down with so much depth and humility. That part about being OK and releasing the need to be perfect—that’s breakthrough truth right there. Keep letting the Word reshape you. 💙
❤️ Sister Tessie:
Sister Tessie, you brought such clarity and strength in your post. Your honest reflection about home versus outside tolerance hit home for many of us! Your reminder that all our temperaments can evolve is so needed. Keep leading with both truth and grace. 💪🏽
💚 Sister Alynthia:
Sister Alynthia, I loved your gentle wisdom and the way you honor everyone’s unique pace and process. That quote—“God knew exactly who He was getting”—stays with me. You’re extending so much grace in your growth. Thank you for being so intentional and transparent. 🌿
🙏🏽 Sister Michelle:
Sister Michelle, your reflections are filled with quiet strength. The way you’ve shifted from judgment to compassion and comparison to acceptance is beautiful. You are truly growing in grace—and it shows. Thank you for sharing so sincerely. 🌼
🌼 Sister Trudy:
Sister Trudy, your post carried such tenderness and power. The way you’re recognizing internal criticism and choosing grace is such a big step. And that last line—your worth is in Christ alone—what a beautiful declaration to hold on to. Keep speaking those truths over yourself. 💖
A great week to everyone.
Thank you for the encouragement Lady Gale~
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