May 23 - 28 -Temperament Pairing Activity Theme: “Understand Me Before You Judge Me”

🌟 Temperament Pairing Activity

Theme: “Understand Me Before You Judge Me”

Dear Wisdom Seekers,

Over the past four days, we’ve reflected deeply on the theme “Understand Me Before You Judge Me.”  

We’ve seen how easy it is to misread strength as coldness, silence as disinterest, or cheerfulness as shallowness — and how crucial it is to look beyond the surface. As we journey together in temperament transformation, it’s time to reach across our differences and grow in love, grace, and understanding.

This new activity is all about listening, connecting, and honouring one another through meaningful one-on-one conversations.  Take the time to discuss with each other.

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📌 Your Temperament Assignment:

🟢 Step 1: Connect with Your Partner

Please text your partner as soon as possible to plan a time for your first call if you have not done so as yet.  

This may take a little time, so don’t wait to start. Let’s aim to have everything done at least a day before the final deadline.

🌟 The early bird catches the worms — so English proverb say!

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🧠 Discussion Points:

1. “I Statements” Quiz Review

   • Go through the quiz below together.

   • Discuss and identify which temperament you both think made each statement.Three Reflection Questions

2. Have turns asking each other the following questions:

1️⃣ How did the “I Statements” help you better understand others (or yourself)?

2️⃣ Which statement did you relate to most — and why?

3️⃣ What is one thing you will now do differently to walk in more understanding and love?

 

🗓️ Timeline:

You have Friday, May 23 to Wednesday, May 28 to complete this activity.

⏰ Note: This may take some coordination — please start early and plan ahead.  Plan to finish before Wednesday.

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💛 As you share and listen, ask the Holy Spirit to help you grow in empathy and wisdom. When we seek to understand one another before jumping to conclusions, we begin to reflect the heart of Christ — full of truth and full of grace.

Let’s go deeper together, ladies. We’re not just learning temperaments — we’re learning to love well.

🌿 Which Temperament Says the Following?

A Temperament Reflection Quiz

Theme: Understand Me Before You Judge Me

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Welcome to a heart-reflecting quiz designed to deepen our compassion and sharpen our understanding of the unique ways God has wired each of us.

Each statement below gives you a glimpse into the inner thoughts and emotional world of one of the four primary temperaments. These are not just personalities — they are God-given designs that include both beauty and brokenness.

As you read each "I statement," try to guess which temperament is speaking:

• A) Choleric

• B) Melancholic

• C) Sanguine

• D) Phlegmatic

This quiz isn’t just about guessing correctly — it’s about growing in grace. Let these words open your eyes and soften your heart as you reflect on how others process life, communicate needs, and handle pain.

Let this quiz guide you into greater empathy as you reflect not only on others — but perhaps even on yourself.

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🔁 Temperament Recap

A) Choleric — Assertive, driven, bold. Cholerics are natural leaders who are focused, decisive, and passionate about progress. They often carry great responsibility and move with determination. However, their strength can sometimes come across as bossy, controlling, or insensitive — especially when under stress or misunderstood. They need grace when they feel misjudged for simply taking initiative.

B) Melancholic — Thoughtful, deep, and emotionally sensitive. Melancholics seek meaning and excellence in all things. Their attention to detail and deep convictions make them loyal, sincere, and insightful. However, they often wrestle with self-criticism, fear of failure, and emotional overload. When judged for being "too serious" or slow to act, they may withdraw or feel rejected.

C) Sanguine — Energetic, expressive, and relationship-oriented. Sanguines bring joy, creativity, and charm into their spaces. They thrive on interaction and love being around people. Yet behind the smiles, many struggle with inconsistency, fear of being forgotten, or masking pain with humor. They need compassion when their lightheartedness is mistaken for superficiality.

D) Phlegmatic — Peaceful, gentle, and reliable. Phlegmatics are loyal friends, calm in chaos, and excellent listeners. They prefer harmony and avoid confrontation. However, they may be misjudged as indifferent, indecisive, or unmotivated. They deeply value belonging but rarely demand attention. Their quiet love deserves to be seen and respected.

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Quiz: Which Temperament Says the Following?

1. "I may sound intense, but I’m really just passionate about doing what’s right."

2. "When I’m quiet, it doesn’t mean I’m not interested — I’m just processing deeply."

3. "Please don’t confuse my excitement with being shallow — I just love connecting with people."

4. "When I don’t respond right away, it’s because I need time to think things through."

5. "I may be direct, but it’s because I want to get things done, not because I’m angry."

6. "Sometimes I’m bubbly on the outside, but battling insecurity on the inside."

7. "I avoid conflict, not because I don’t care, but because I want to keep the peace."

8. "I struggle to speak up, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have strong convictions."

9. "I long to be understood, but I’m not always sure how to express what I feel."

10. "When I take charge, I’m trying to protect others — not control them."

11. "Sometimes I feel overlooked because I don’t force myself into conversations."

12. "I talk to feel connected — not to dominate the room."

13. "I appear confident, but I often wrestle with pressure and fear of failure."

14. "I’m not ignoring you. I’m thinking — and praying — before I speak."

15. "I need affirmation more than you think, even if I’m always smiling."

16. "I show up quietly, faithfully, and without drama — but I do need to be noticed sometimes."

17. "I can’t stand inefficiency — it frustrates me deeply."

18. "I might change the topic mid-sentence, but that’s how I process life."

19. "I give everyone the benefit of the doubt because I know what it feels like to be misunderstood."

20. "When I withdraw, it’s usually because I’m overwhelmed, not because I’m mad."

Commenting:

• Post one of your partner’s answers above from the three questions above (not your own) below. (Please state your partner's name.)
  

• OPTIONAL:  Feel free to share anything extra on the blog about your conversation with your partner about the quiz and the reflection questions.

• Let’s encourage one another with what we’re learning!
  

A wonderful weekend to everyone!