Greetings! Thank you Ladies in Grenada for your contribution in last night's lesson. Very much appreciated. May we continue to learn from each other.
Jesus reminds us in Mark 12:31 to “love your neighbor as yourself.” But to truly love well, we need insight into how others experience love—especially those with the Melancholic temperament, who are thoughtful, emotionally sensitive, and often carry more than they show.
Today, we’re using Proverbs 25 to explore how to love the Melancholic with discernment and gentleness. This chapter speaks to issues close to their heart—reputation, self-control, honoring privacy, and avoiding unnecessary conflict.
Let’s allow God’s Word to guide us into deeper wisdom as we love those who reflect deeply, feel deeply, and need love that is both tender and true.
📝 Instructions
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Read Proverbs 25 prayerfully then reflect on the following questions:
1. Sensitivity to Privacy
Proverbs 25:9 says, “Argue your case with your neighbor, and do not reveal the secret of another.”
👉 How can you protect a Melancholic’s emotional privacy?
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A. Keep their confidences without repeating them.
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B. Avoid public correction or exposure.
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C. Ask permission before sharing personal things.
2. Honor over Hype
Proverbs 25:6–7 warns not to exalt yourself in the king’s presence.
👉 How can you avoid embarrassing a Melancholic who doesn’t seek the spotlight?
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A. Compliment them privately instead of in front of others.
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B. Ask before putting them on the spot.
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C. Celebrate their work quietly with sincerity.
3. Emotional Overload
Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a person who has no self-control over his spirit.”
👉 How can you support a Melancholic when their emotions feel overwhelming?
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A. Sit with them in silence and listen.
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B. Help them process truth without rushing their feelings.
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C. Remind them of God's strength in their weakness.
4. Knowing When to Hold Back
Proverbs 25:20 says, “Like one who takes off a garment on a cold day… is one who sings songs to a troubled heart.”
👉 How can you avoid being tone-deaf to a Melancholic’s mood?
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A. Match your response to their emotional state.
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B. Ask how they’re feeling before offering cheer.
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C. Choose compassion over cliché advice.
5. Speaking with Purpose
Proverbs 25:11 says, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken at the proper time.”
👉 How can you speak timely words to encourage a Melancholic this week?
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A. Send a thoughtful message when you sense they’re low.
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B. Share a Scripture that aligns with what they’re facing.
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C. Say what they need to hear—not just what’s easy to say.
💬 👇🏽 Kindly post your answer to either Question 1 or 2 (or both!) in the comment section below:
- Which question helped you see a new way to love a Melancholic with deeper understanding?
- Have you ever unintentionally missed what a Melancholic needed from you? How will you respond differently now?
Thank you for taking time to love wisely. Let’s continue growing in grace and truth this week! 💙
Good Day, WS,
ReplyDeleteI must say, the preparation of these blogs has truly been transformative. I find that I must drink the medicine before administering it to others. Eventually, by God’s grace, we will all be well!
Question #1 opened my eyes to a new way of loving the Melancholic in my life—especially since I’m married to one and have two children with that same temperament. I’ve learned that I must be mindful not to correct or expose them publicly, even though my husband, because of his calling, has become somewhat accustomed to it.
In the early days of motherhood, I often missed what my Melancholic family members truly needed from me—this also extended to the Melancholics at church. Now I’m learning to slow down and give them the time they need to process and think. It’s not easy, but I’m getting there.
All in all, I genuinely love this transformation journey—and I’m embracing it.
Hey, this is just me sharing a little deeper today. No pressure on anyone else to do likewise.
Wishing everyone a great day—especially you, Sister M. Alexander, my dear Melancholic sister. 💙
P.S. Sister Deborah I hope all is well with the downstairs. Stay strong and stay focused. You are on the right track.
Sister Penny,
DeleteThank you for being so transparent. It’s a beautiful thing when we can humbly admit where we’ve fallen short. I believe it’s music to the ears of a Melancholic when they hear someone openly acknowledge their struggles. It speaks of safety, honesty, and connection.
Sister Gale you had me laughing , drinking the medicine before administering to us, I like that , it shows accountability..
DeleteYou're a good patient! Taking your medicine as prescribed!! Good job LOL
DeleteIt's truly wonderful to see your transformation and growth over the years. It's also commendable that you always want to share whatever you find with others - not only are you being transformed, but by sharing this transformational knowledge, we are also becoming transformed! Thank you!!
Good morning to everyone
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Mel/Phleg 💙
Loving the Melancholic with Wisdom .
Thanks for a great session lastnight Pastor & Sister Gale in loving our neighbors as ourselves it really opened my eyes when I thought of the word “ Resentment “ and I had to ask myself how can I be Christlike if resentment is coming out of me ?
For todays Question
Question No. 2
1.This question can now help me love a melancholic with deeper understanding.
🌺How can you avoid embarrassing a Melancholic who doesn’t seek the spotlight?
2.Have you ever unintentionally missed what a Melancholic needed from you? How will you respond differently now?
Yes I remember a particular time having to deal with a particular individual apparently they need some space away from home because of what ever it is they were going through and with my pompous self I took the lead and started praying against what the person wanted , apparently my prayers worked, and the individual decided to not do what they wanted to do , and I was happy about it , I was laughing and saying Yes I prayed for this , now this got the person very angry and we didn’t speak for some days , am saying this to say sometimes what we think is best is not always is , we have to learn to put ourselves In a persons shoes , at the time I thought that would of been a mistake , but looking at the situation maybe some time away would of been just what the person needed even though my intentions were good..
Thank you for the reflection questions ..
Bless day to all 🌺
Sister Alanda,
DeleteI know exactly what you mean. I’ve been there too—feeling like I had to be someone’s savior. But one day, one of my daughters looked at me and said, “Mom, you’re not anyone’s Holy Spirit.” Ouch! That hit hard, but it was the truth I needed to hear.
Thanks for sharing
Woww , that hit me too..
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ReplyDeleteGood Morning My Dear Sisters
June 25 -
Proverbs 25
Loving the Melancholic with Wisdom
Question 1
Sensitivity to Privacy
💘 How can you protect a Melancholic’s emotional privacy?
C. Ask permission before sharing personal things.
Looking back, I now understand why my husband and I had so many conflicts in the early years of our marriage. At the time, I didn’t know much about his temperament or personality, and this lack of understanding caused unnecessary friction, especially when it came to my words.
As someone who is naturally expressive, I was always eager to share. But I didn’t realize that not everything was mine to tell. What felt like joyful updates to me felt like breaches of privacy to him. I often shared things that were meant to stay within our family, and this deeply frustrated him.
One moment stands out vividly. The year we got our new van, my husband wanted to surprise Pastor Penny by pulling up at his home to bless it. It was a thoughtful gesture, planned with care. But out of sheer excitement, I called Pastor Penny ahead of time to let him know. I thought I was being helpful, but my husband wasn’t pleased. The surprise was ruined, and so was a moment that meant a lot to him.
Sadly, I never stopped to ask: “Is it okay if I share this?” I simply went ahead.
Understanding his Melancholic nature has helped me see the value of emotional privacy. I’m still learning, but with the Holy Spirit’s help, I’ve come to respect his need for discretion and to ask permission before speaking.
Thank You Sister Penny for these Soul Searching Questions. It is truly eye opening.
Have A wonderful Wednesday 🙂
Thanks for sharing sister Debbie , I believe you meant well, sometimes though it’s not our moment to share .. keep growing . Bless day
ReplyDeleteSo true!!
DeleteSister Debbie, this statement stood out to me - "Sadly, I never stopped to ask: ‘Is it okay if I share this?’ I simply went ahead."
DeleteAs a Melancholic, I can say we truly value privacy, even in the smallest, most seemingly insignificant things. It’s not always about secrecy, but about feeling emotionally safe and respected.
It’s amazing to see how we’re all growing and becoming more aware through this journey. 💙 So grateful to be walking through this together.
Sister Cindy It’s amazing how much clarity we gain when we begin to understand each other’s temperaments instead of assuming the worst. What used to feel like secrecy was really just your husband being true to his quiet, private nature. It’s beautiful that you can now recognize that and reflect on it with grace.
DeleteAnd yes, those moments that used to drive us crazy often become learning points that grow our patience and strengthen our marriages. 🙏🏽 God truly works through our relationships to teach us understanding and acceptance.😊
That is a very good point and suggestion when dealing with melancholics. Asking permission before sharing. As Sis Cindy highlighted, its not that melancholics like secrecy, we need to feel safe and have our privacy respected.
DeleteYour example shows that you are truly allowing the Holy Spirit to transform you and give you greater insight. Keep up the amazing work!
Good Morning my fellow WS.
ReplyDeleteJune 25th, 2025
Loving the Melancholic with Wisdom
Proverbs 25
Question 1
Sensitivity to Privacy
Proverbs 25:9 says, “Argue your case with your neighbor, and do not reveal the secret of another.”
👉 How can you protect a Melancholic’s emotional privacy?
A. . Keep their confidences without repeating them.
Sister Glenda. Thank you for sharing. Hope all is well. ❤️
DeleteGood morning all!
ReplyDeleteMelancholic / Choleric
Proverbs 25 & Mark 12:31 – Loving the Melancholic with Wisdom
I just want to say how much I’m truly enjoying this journey. I’m learning so much, and honestly, I can feel myself being transformed bit by bit. I’m really grateful to be part of this.
Today’s Questions:
1. Which question helped you see a new way to love a Melancholic with deeper understanding?
Question #4 – How can you avoid being tone-deaf to a Melancholic’s mood?
A. Match your response to their emotional state.
2. Have you ever unintentionally missed what a Melancholic needed from you? How will you respond differently now?
I remember a time when a close friend shared how deeply hurt and overwhelmed she was after a fight with a family member. Instead of sitting with her in that pain and offering comfort, I jumped straight into advice mode. I told her things like, “You need to be more direct and stand up for yourself,” and “Stop letting people walk over you.”
At the time, I thought I was helping. But she didn’t respond the way I expected. Looking back, I realize how much I missed what she really needed. She wasn’t ready for solutions—what she needed most was someone to simply feel the weight of her pain with her, and to acknowledge how heavy her heart was.
My quick advice made it feel like I was rushing her through her emotions, and that caused her to pull back emotionally for a while.
Since then, I’ve learned to slow down and really match my response to her emotional state. Now, I try to say things like, “I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m here for you,” and I wait to offer advice unless she asks for it.
This has taught me that sometimes, being present in the moment is far more powerful than offering a fix.
Blessed day all!!
This is powerful sister Cindy ! And am sure it’s no fault of yours , because at the time you thought that was the best thing , but thank God for this platform and his grace we are learning to tone ourselves, as you rightly said “ Match your response to thier emotional state “ bless day
ReplyDeleteSister Cindy, I understand what you’re saying. I’ve been on both sides receiving advice and giving it and you’re absolutely right: when we respond too quickly, it can feel as though we’re rushing someone, even if our intentions are good. People with a melancholic temperament appreciate it when we match our response to their emotional state and move at their pace.
ReplyDeleteYou are indeed growing. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Great input.
Great example Sis. Cindy. It's so easy to think that providing solutions is the best thing, when in actuality, sometimes people just need a listening ear. Thanks for sharing.
DeleteGood morning everyone
ReplyDeleteSensitivity to privacy
Proverbs 25-9
Argue your case with your neighbor himself, and do not reveal another's secret
Question
How can I protect a meloncholic emotional privacy
Answer
A) keep their confidence without repeating them.
Have a bless day everyone
Peace.
Hello Ladies.
ReplyDeleteMel/Cho
Proverbs 25
Loving a Melancholic with Wisdom
How can you avoid being tone-deaf to a Melancholic's mood?
Choose compassion over cliche advice.
Have a good night
Great conversation ladies. Your extended answers shed more light on your transformation progress and provides encouragement for others. Continue to look deep and share what God is doing. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteGoodnight everyone!
ReplyDeleteWhich question helped you see a new way to love a Melancholic with deeper understanding?
The question about ways to help a melancholic manage emotional overload. The suggestion to "Help them process truth without rushing their feelings." This is very important, especially the part about processing truth. Sometimes as a melancholic, with all the overthinking and self criticism, we can lose track of what is true. I have really been reminding myself more and more about Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
Have you ever unintentionally missed what a Melancholic needed from you? How will you respond differently now?
Even though I'm a melancholic, I can clearly remember a time when I missed the mark when dealing with a fellow melancholic. I was providing 'feedback' to someone (without realizing they were a melancholic) and although I thought I was 'helping' them by providing corrections, I was 'tone deaf' to the person's mood. I needed to know 'when to hold back' - I didn't have to pour out all my corrections because clearly the person was starting to feel overwhelmed and they starting taking my corrections as attacks.
This study is truly helping me realize how to love my neighbour as myself - in this case, learning how to love my melancholic crew as I love my melancholic self!!
Yes, Phil.4:8 is truly a scripture Melancholics must apply. Thanks for sharing!
DeleteGood night everyone:
ReplyDeletePROVERBS 25:
MELANCHOLIC/SANGUINE
Loving the melancholic with wisdom:
Sensitivity to Privacy.
Question 1. How can you protect a melancholic's emotional privacy?
Answer: Ask permission before they sharing personal things.
Honor over hype:
Question 2.:How can you avoid embarrassing a melancholic who doesn't seek the spotlight?
Answer: Ask before putting them on the spot.
Sleep well everyone.
June 25 2025
ReplyDeleteMel/ Phleg
Proverbs 25 & Mark 12 :31
Loving the Melancholic
With Wisdom
Thank you, Sis. Penny as you continue to go deeper into the Melancholic Temperament to bring out more understanding and clarity .
Thank you ladies for diving in with purpose.
Question 1
How can you avoid being tone- deaf to a Melancholic 's mood?
Choose compassion over cliché advice.
Blessings.
You are welcome Sister Laura!
DeleteProverbs 25 & Mark 12:31
ReplyDeleteLoving the Melancholic with Wisdom
Blessed evening WS ,
All of the reflection questions spoke deeply to me as a fellow Melancholic
however question #4. Knowing when to hold back .
Avoiding being tone-deaf to Melancholic's mood is a way of intentionally seeking to love my Melancholic neighbor .
I will Choose compassion over cliché advice.
Ques#2.Have you ever unintentionally missed what a Melancholic needed from you? Yes .Sometimes ,I think because of my temperament blend,
my responses do not always match the emotional mood of my fellow Mel Fam
*How will you respond differently now?
show empathize , Treat others the way I like to be treated with Grace, Patience ,Gentle Love & kindness. Seek Wisdom & Guidance
Ask how they are feeling before offering cheer.
Have a peaceful night ALL
Really great comments ladies ,Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts ,
it is so encouraging ! God's Blessing as we grow together !
June 25, 2025
ReplyDeleteHello WS
Proverbs 25
Mark 12: 31 Love your neighbour as yourself
Loving the Melancholic with Wisdom
1. Sensitivity to Privacy
How can you protect a Melancholic’s emotional privacy?
Avoid public correction or exposure.
2. Honor over Hype
How can you avoid embarrassing a Melancholic who doesn’t seek the spotlight?
Celebrate their work quietly with sincerity.
Thank you ladies for giving your examples they are insightful and very helpful. Lot to glean from your personal experiences. Thank you all for being transparent.
Good night!
How can you avoid embarrassing a Melancholic who doesn’t seek the spotlight?
ReplyDeleteC. Celebrate their work quietly with sincerity.
It is always important to treat others the way they would like to be treated. Showing love and understanding is important in building others up. Cherishing how others are wired is important in keeping in right relationship. To all the Melancholic I value and respect who you are.
Blessings