As we reflected on the truths in Ephesians 1, each sister opened up honestly about where she was before and how God is working in her now. Here’s a summarized account of what was shared by each temperament group.
🟡 Sanguine Reflections
Sister Debbie
She used to avoid serious or quiet people, feeling dismissed or unsure how to connect. She’s now learning to appreciate quiet relationships and moments of stillness. In the past, she became defensive when corrected, but is now learning to receive correction with grace. She also shared how she used to feel intimidated by reserved individuals but is growing in her ability to connect with others on a deeper level and appreciate their calm strength.
Sister Alison
Alison admitted that she used to take it personally when people didn’t seem interested in connecting and found reserved individuals boring. She often spoke without thinking. Now she’s learning to value quiet connections, accept correction with grace, and embrace people’s unique temperaments with more patience and humility.
🔴 Choleric Reflections
Sister Debra
She once had little patience for indecisive people and would take control to get things done. Now, she’s working on honoring others’ pace with grace. She realized she often corrected others harshly, but is now striving to speak the truth in love and humility. When others didn’t take initiative, she used to see it as laziness but is now recognizing that people grow and respond differently.
Sister Tessie
Tessie reflected on how she once lacked tolerance for those who were slower or less decisive, but has since grown in patience and learned to respect different temperaments. She acknowledged that she was more tolerant outside the home than inside and is seeking to better understand how to speak lovingly when addressing repeated issues. She still values initiative but is now more understanding of others’ different levels of motivation.
Sister Gale
Gale shared that she used to move on quickly from those who were indecisive, seeing them as inefficient. She now views them as part of God’s plan to help her grow in patience. She admitted that her tone in correcting others was often harsh, but she is learning to speak truth with love. She once saw those who didn’t take initiative as lazy, but now sees them as uniquely wired and in process—just like herself.
💚 Phlegmatic Reflections
Sister Ann
Ann shared that she once avoided confrontation but is now learning to listen first. She used to be critical of expressive people, focusing on their facial reactions, but is now learning to respect others’ emotional expressions. In relationships, she’s learning to be honest and avoid conflict while still addressing issues with understanding.
Sister Maria
Maria admitted that she used to argue with people who were intense but now listens calmly. She used to judge expressive people but is now trying to connect with them. She sees her role in relationships as a communicator, decision supporter, and emotional encourager.
Sister Claudia
Claudia used to cry easily and shut down when faced with confrontation. Now, she feels more comfortable engaging and sees herself as growing stronger emotionally. She once viewed expressive people as harsh or bossy but now understands their hearts better. In relationships, she once saw herself as a follower, unsure of her voice, but she now feels more confident and empowered.
Sister Jacintha
Jacintha used to walk away from confrontation or stay silent, feeling intimidated. Now, she’s speaking up and reminding herself that her voice matters. She used to feel overwhelmed by expressive people but now appreciates their energy and presence. In relationships, she’s growing in her role as an encourager and is making more time for meaningful connection.
🔵 Melancholic Reflections
Sister Laura
Laura said she used to pull away from those who weren’t emotionally deep. She’s now learning to love others as Christ loves her, even when they’re different. She used to be critical when people didn’t meet her expectations, but now understands that grace is needed on both sides. She once defined herself by flaws, but now sees her worth through God’s eyes.
Sister Hazel
Hazel shared that she used to silently distance herself from those who didn’t match her depth. She used to be sarcastic or disappointed when people didn’t meet expectations. Now, she’s learning to offer grace and rest in God’s steady love. She no longer feels the need to prove herself.
Sister Cindy
Cindy used to withdraw from people who didn’t show emotional depth and quietly judged those who let her down. She’s now learning to offer grace and stay present. She struggled with comparison and self-criticism but is growing in accepting her identity in Christ and resting in God’s love.
Sister Glenda
Glenda said she used to criticize and pull away from those who weren’t emotionally deep. She was disappointed when others didn’t meet her expectations but now chooses to extend grace and focus on Christ’s perfection. She once over-focused on flaws but is learning to trust God’s shaping work in her life.
Sister Michelle
Michelle admitted that she used to assume others who weren’t deep were not serious about God. She pulled away from people who didn’t meet her expectations and struggled with self-worth. Now, she’s asking God to help her love others and is growing in accepting herself.
Sister Jesmyn
Jesmyn shared that she’s learning to connect without needing every conversation to be deep. She used to be critical of people who didn’t meet her expectations but is now catching those thoughts and showing grace. She still struggles with self-worth and flaw-focused thinking but is encouraged by the reminder that she’s chosen and enough in God’s eyes.
Sister Melanie
Melanie shared that she used to avoid emotionally shallow people and struggled to trust others. She’s learning that not everything has to be deep and is trying to enjoy lighter moments. She once projected her expectations harshly on others but is now understanding the need for grace. When it comes to worth, she used to compare herself heavily and felt pressure to prove herself. Now, she’s on a journey to embrace her identity in Christ and let go of striving.
💛 In Summary
Each sister has shared openly and vulnerably—reflecting on how God is shaping her through His Word, through community, and through the lens of her temperament.
From impatience to grace…
From silence to strength…
From criticism to compassion…
From striving to resting in Christ…
This has been a week of real transformation—and we give God all the glory.
Let’s keep learning, growing, and loving together.
🕊️ We are Loved to Love.
One step. One truth. One reflection at a time.
